The Truth

BY; DR. FOREST LEWIS

There is still a double standard in this country when it comes to males and females!

Take for example the subject of pedophilia. A man who has sex with an underage girl is more likely to wind up behind bars, while a female who beds a young boy will receive probation. Remember Debra Lafave? She is the former Florida school teacher who had sex with one of her students. Ms. LaFave was married at the time she violated this young man. While many of you will say, but, Dr., "She's A Hottie." I will counter that she is also a very sick woman, who has caused this young man a host of psychological problems.

Imagine, you are sixteen, and you are approached with a proposal from this "Playboy Babe," To have the sexual experience of your young lifetime. I don't know about you, but my hormones were "Raging Out of Control" when I was sixteen. I will let you guys fill in the blanks on my last statement. Simply think of the things that you did at sixteen, that is, before you had your first sexual encounter. Incredible, Huh? And, I bet embarassing too!

There is no way that a sixteen year old heteterosexual boy is going to say "No Thank You Ms. LaFave, I've Got Homework To Do." He'll be out of his pants quicker than you can say, "Houdini." The consequences? That's not on his mind. This kid is thinking that he is a "Man And A Stud, Why Else Would This Babe Want Me?" He's not thinking that this woman is sick!

Sex is a healthy thing. But, not when you are a sixteen year old boy, and your suitor is a "Grown, Well Built Woman." A sixteen year old, and again, I don't care what century we are in, is thinking of, "Should I Stay At Home, Or Strike Out On My Own." In family therapy, it is called the "Launching Phase." A kid at this age is also wrestling with whether to remain a boy or grow into a man. It is a natural cycle, that has occurred since the beginning of time. Add in a good looking, well endowed woman, who blows his mind with endless good sex, and you have the makings for a patient a the nearest community mental health agency!

Again, women like Deborah LaFave get the kid gloves treatment when they are eventually caught, while men get "Hammered." Both should receive "Equal Treatment," because what they have done is both disgusting and criminal!

Here in the state of New York, an unbelievable story involving an ex-husband who was taken to court for child support. His name was withheld from this A-P story, as well as the name of his ex-wife's. Here is what happened. The couple married in 1995. There is no indication in the story when the couple divorced. However, apparently during the marriage, the wife decided to be inseminated with the sperm from an unknown donor. And "Presto," she becomes pregnant. Keep in mind that the husband  said that he "Never" gave his consent to this procedure. During their marriage, they had two children together.

The ex-wife said that her former spouse should have to "Pay Child Support For The Child Conceived Through Artificial Insemination." A Deleware County trial court agreed. Not willing to give up, the ex-husband appeal what looked on the surface like a crazy ruling, to the highest court in New York State, The Appellate Division of State Supreme Court. Well, guess what? The justices upheld the lower court's decision.

The man's lawyer had argued that his client had never signed a consent form for his former wife to have this procedure. Furthermore, in their separation agreement, a contract was drawn up stating that he was responsible for only paying support for his biological children. Seems fair, right? Not to the high court. In its ruling, the court said something in legal mumbo jumbo:

"The separation left the third child fatherless withot a hearing or analysis of the child's rights and interests"

Say what? Should not the impulsive ex-wife be made to pay for her actions? Not according to the justices:

"Prior to the enactment of the Domestic Relations Law, a Surrogate's Court held that a child born of consensual AID (Artificial Insemination By Donor) during a valid marriage is a legitimate child entitled to the rights and priviledges of a naturally conceived child of the same marriage"

The justices also rejected the man's argument that he told his wife over and over that he thought insemination wasn't a good idea, but that she forced him to agree to the procedure by threatening to leave.

Ah, "The Plot Thickens." This guy really ended up "Screwing Himself." Listen to what the high court had to say:

" By signing a "frozen donor semen specimen agreement, faxed it to a California sperm bank, paid for it with a credit card and knew what his wife was doing"

While I still continue to believe that there is a double standard in our court system when it comes to women and men, this is not one of those instances. We all know why this guy did what he did.

To use the parlance of the streets, "This Turkey Was Whipped."

The late comendian, Richard Pryor had a funny line in one of his stand-ups. Pryor said that if his woman ever decided to leave him, he would argue cogently, "Honey, If You Got To Leave, Please Don't Take The......"

This is what I mean by this guy being "Whipped."

If you want my take on all of this, both of these people need their heads examined.

People simply have no shame anymore in this country!